Brain research shows that there is very little difference in the way our brains experience emotional pain, and the way it experiences physical pain. I guess that is why being excluded can feel like someone is punching you in the gut. Social exclusion is a very common thing that we all experience at some point in our lives. Although it may feel like nobody understands you, cares about you, or takes your feelings into account, there is always somebody else out there who is going through what you are going through, and maybe even worse. Being excluded feels like getting hit by a ton of bricks because, as human beings, we are dependent on one another not only for thriving, but for surviving.
There is always something positive that comes out of our pain, and that is the most beautiful thing about this extravagant life we get to live. If we take our fears, worries, stresses, and complications, and think about what we learned from it all, and apply it to our lives, we will end up rising above any pain anyones ever given us. I try to do this day by day and I always end up finding myself stronger than I was before. Everything life throws at us is preparing us for something amazing in the future, and we just have to believe that, take a leap of faith, and move forward. By holding anger in our hearts towards those who exclude us, degrade us, and tear us down is letting them win. Do not give up that easily. Fill that anger with love and teach yourself a lesson in the meantime. We will end up being very successful people if we stop spreading hatred and start filling that with love. Every time you think you get rejected from something good, you are actually being re-directed to something better. If you see someone being left out or forgotten by the rest of the group, go and include them, because being forgotten hurts.
Be an advocate for yourself and rise above and
ostracism will lose every time.
I walk slowly, but I do not walk backwards. Always help someone. You might be the only one that does. Its you against you everyday. Make sure the right you wins.
“Ohana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.” – Lilo & Stitch